Posted by: Suzan | July 8, 2009

Letting Go and Allowing In

I began pounding away on my computer to meet my goal of writing six hours a day on my own projects. I decided not to check e-mails or that seductive Facebook until I completed my writing for the day. I felt like a colony who had released its Motherland as I birthed a new sense of liberation. Putting my muse first before all else felt like traveling to a new land, and I wanted to explore every inch of it.

The first couple of days I caught myself smiling a lot more and feeling a surge of energy. Although on the third day, my computer would barely start. I tried to open files and each one took about fifteen minutes or more. The same thing happened with e-mail, and I couldn’t open attachments. My Norton security button had disappeared. It seemed as if some intruder had come in during the night and hijacked my life. For my computer has become a central part of my daily existence.

I called my husband at work. “Jim what do you think is going on?” I asked.

“Just turn it off. I’ll look at it when I get home.” he said.

“It is only 9:00 in the morning. I’ve got a lot of work to do. What am I going to do without my computer?” I asked.

“Take the day off. It is the summer.” Jim said.

“Thanks. I’ll do that.” I said. I reached down and turned it off. Then I looked around my office. Next I went down to the garage for some boxes and started to clear out some old clutter. Now here’s something I can do, I thought. Later, I went out for a really long bike ride and if thoughts of the computer came up, I brushed them aside.

Jim spent the entire evening running test applications and so on with my computer. Nothing jived. I wrote out a list of my options and didn’t care for any of them. I certainly didn’t relish buying a new computer and learning Vista.

The next day I’d been invited to join a movie group of retired women by my neighbor for a lunch-time matinee of My Sister’s Keeper. They’d meet afterward for a discussion. My intuition whispered to me, ‘Go.’ So I did. I became so engrossed with the movie, my bag of popcorn, and my box of Kleenex that I completely forgot about my computer woes.

Then afterward a 75-ish year old gutsy-seeming gal sat next to me. I mentioned that I may have to give my computer its last rites. She said, “Do you need a computer guy? I’ve got one for you. His name is Art. Call me and I’ll give you the number.”

The last place I expected to solve my dilemma was at a movie discussion with retired women by the matriarch of the group. I’d always dreamt about having a real computer guy-one that was an expert in the trade, rather than my well-intentioned husband. So I decided to call her the next day.

Coincidentally I went to visit my chiropractor that same morning and mentioned the computer situation. She said, “Oh do I have the computer guy for you. His name is Art….”

Whenever I can let go of my attachment to a situation and allow in Spirit – all is resolved with little effort on my part. All I need to do is show up when I hear the soft voice asking me to. Then life becomes easy.

Art came out on Monday and fixed the entire situation within an hour charging me a ridiculously low rate which I gladly paid.

And so it is……..

Posted by: Suzan | June 26, 2009

Healing my Life Force Energy

Naturopaths have piqued my curiosity for many years with their focus on the source of one’s issues/ailments rather than bandaging them up. Holistic practices have become more central to my life, yet I still thought I’d schedule this appointment, ‘some day.’

 During my recent physical at the Center for Health and Well Being with Dr. Gray, the owner and primary general physician, she suggested that I meet with a naturopath. My insurance would cover it, and the naturopath could even discuss the results of my lab work.

 My ‘some day’ became June 24, 2009, and this date is etched into my memory as the day I became reintroduced to my life force energy. For more than a year I hadn’t felt fully awake even after a refreshing night’s sleep, and my memory had been in a sharp decline. Post it notes with reminders all over walls became my best advisers. At times I’d even forget the names of my friends. Someone would ask about a movie I had watched days before, and I could barely describe it.

 Not only that, I had been experiencing a lull, a lack of motivation – compared to my normal Cheetah-like self (focused with enormous drive, agility, and ‘speed’). I still checked off items on my to-do list yet so many remained. It felt like I lived in a sci-fi movie where my life force energy had been drained to give birth to some strange creature.

 The naturopath reviewed my reports with me. “Ah, this looks interesting. Your DHEA is abnormal,” she said.

 With a range of 32-240 – mine landed on 16.  I learned that DHEA is the mother of the hormones – this natural steroid in the body generally converts to testosterone, yet when the adrenal glands are depleted, it will convert to whatever hormone the body needs. Our bodies thrive with DHEA – without enough of it – low energy, depression (even moderate), and a fuzzy memory result. We cannot live without this vital substance.

 The naturopath suggested that I take 25 mg. of DHEA, a synthetic hormone, each day for awhile to help regulate my hormonal system. There is some controversy around this substance as scientists have only been able to do a two-year study on its efficacy. Thus far they do know that if someone has a pre-disposition for ovarian or breast cancer, for example, (due to genetics) she should not take this supplement as it can increase the possibility of getting cancer. Naturally, when there is more estrogen or progestin in the system, the risk elevates. Nonetheless, studies have not proven a direct correlation between someone getting cancer as a result of taking this supplement.

 I have chosen to take the risk because my quality of life comes first. Like most women, I have concerns about side-effects and any potential negative outcomes from anything that I ingest. Yet what ‘I do know for sure’ is that I don’t want to live without my life force energy. That isn’t living.

 After literally one dose of the DHEA my eyes opened up, colors looked sharper, my thoughts made sense, and I could feel my ‘staying power.’ Instead of yearning for a nap, I focused on my projects and even finished them. Of course it takes awhile to adjust in one’s system, yet I already feel my life force trickling in – coming home. Welcome back!

 Life – it is far too precious to waste any moment of it. Live it, NOW!

 

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 To learn more about naturopaths:

American Association of Naturopathic Physicians

http://www.naturopathic.org/

 

 

Posted by: Suzan | June 17, 2009

So What’s Really Going on in the World?

When it comes to news reporting, I find our San Diego Union Tribune to be sparse in international coverage. The weather often upstages critical news stories from foreign lands.

 Did you know that recently in Peru, a country where I visited for three cherished weeks trekking Machu Pichu amongst other adventures, there has been an alleged massacre of indigenous people by the police? Why? Because they held a peaceful demonstration to protect the Amazon rainforest.

 For the past couple of months approximately 30,000 tribal people have been blocking access to road and river traffic to protest the implementation of the US-Peru FTA. They claim that the impact of the agreement will displace them from their land, traditions, and forests.

 Decrees within the FTA allow for mining and petroleum companies to shove the native people aside, take their land, and push into the life-sustaining Amazonian rainforest. These aboriginal tribes are being murdered and maimed, often thrown into rivers to hide the crimes, to allow in the foreign investment monies.

 So it isn’t in my backyard, why should I care? Not only is this a protest for the solidarity of neglected people; it represents international interests literally plowing into what represents more than ½ of the planet’s remaining rainforest which is also the most species rich tract. At the current rate of deforestation, it is estimated that we will lose 40% of the rainforest in the next two years. And, what of that? When our rainforest dies – so do we.

 For powerful coverage of international news events I recommend:

http://www.truthout.org/ For more information on the above news story and how you can help:

http://peruanista.blogspot.com/

Posted by: Suzan | June 5, 2009

The Cost of Freedom, Part 1

            Over my breakfast cereal, I glance through the paper. “Three soldiers killed by Taliban insurgents; eight Afghanistan contractors killed when bomb detonated….”

          My heart stops for a moment and my eyes tear up. My brother left days ago for Afghanistan and now these casualties seem more real. I place the paper down. I can no longer read this section.

          I take a deep breathe reflecting on President Obama’s recent speech in Egypt. Such powerful words – they resound a sense of ‘oneness with all.’ I feel united with my brethren. Do they feel it too? Will the words move like swift feet creating peaceful actions? I pray that it is true when Author, Edward Bulwer-Lytton coined, “The pen is mightier than the sword” in 1839.

           With the words come claims that we do not want permanent bases in Afghanistan and Pakistan. Though the fighting has displaced millions of people in Pakistan from their homes. Thus far approximately 20,000.00 people have been killed in Afghanistan and over 52,000.00 have been injured. These numbers are extremely conservative. You may visit the following website for current statistics: http://www.unknownnews.net/casualties.html

           The extremists in this region are not swayed by reason. They have a mindset to eradicate anyone from the United States or those who represent us. Although I disagree wholeheartedly with the policies and associated actions of the Taliban regime; our current efforts seem tantamount to the Romans’ sending Christians to face the Lions. The extremists know the land; and they bomb roving vehicles as if they are little boys (or girls) playing with Tonka toys. We may as well be sending our troops, contractors, and dear people whom we love, like my brother, to walk amongst land mines. They will live by the pure luck of where they place their feet.

       How many more precious lives are we willing to lose? I thought we might have learned some lessons from Iraq and Vietnam. History is doomed to repeat itself. The cost of freedom seems enormous. For are we really free?

Posted by: Suzan | May 22, 2009

WILD GEESE

 

One of my favorite wise woman poets is Mary Oliver. I’d like to share with you a delightful piece she wrote entitled, “Wild Geese.”


You do not have to be good. 
You do not have to walk on your knees 
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. 
You only have to let the soft animal of your body 
love what it loves. 
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. 
Meanwhile the world goes on. 
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain 
are moving across the landscapes, 
over the prairies and the deep trees, 
the mountains and the rivers. 
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, 
are heading home again. 
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, 
the world offers itself to your imagination, 
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting–
over and over announcing your place 
in the family of things.

© Mary Oliver

Posted by: Suzan | May 14, 2009

Keep your Goals ALIVE and THRIVE

Did you begin the year ready to keep your goals alive and thrive?

How many of your New Year resolutions have you kept?

 The following eleven tips, from a confessed goal junkie, are highlights from more than 20 years of motivating employees, clients, and herself to achieve goals:

1)       VALUE THEM

–They must be in alignment with what you personally value most NOW or you will not be motivated to pursue them.

2)       ALLOW THEM TO CHALLENGE YOU

–They must cause you to stretch and climb out of your comfort zones. When you feel a little uncomfortable that is a good sign!

3)       BE FLEXIBLE

–Remember that your goals are not set in stone. Life happens and sometimes you may need to shift course. If that happens be gentle with yourself and make a course correction.

–If you find yourself avoiding a goal, it is OKAY to ask,

Is this what I really want? If it isn’t, give yourself permission to scratch it off the list and move on to what you really want.

4)       OWN THEM

–Your goals are exactly that – YOURS. Do not make them the property of your family members or friends. Make sure they are yours.

Ask, Whom am I doing this for?

5)       PACE YOURSELF

–Achieving a goal is like running a marathon. It is NOT a series of 100-yard sprints. If you approach them in that way, you will wear yourself out. Be gentle and patient with your progress. Accomplish it bit by bit and you CAN achieve it. An anonymous quote that I once read sums it up well, Yard by yard life is hard, inch by inch it’s a cinch!

6)       BE DISCREET

–Be careful with whom you share your precious dreams and goals with. Naysayers will drag you down. Negative people and pessimistic thoughts will drain your energy. Surround yourself with positive people. Only share your dreams and goals with those you know you can trust

7)       PROTECT YOUR ENERGY

–Watch your self-talk and keep it positive. Fill your mind with encouraging words. Whenever you can, read uplifting materials and affirmations. Every time you make a decision ask, Does it take me closer to or further from my goal? (You might add, “Is it giving me or taking my energy?) And there is your answer! 

8)       REACH OUT FOR SUPPORT

Build your own support system. If you really want your goals, yet feel afraid, ask, Whom can I turn to or what can I do to support myself in taking a step toward this goal? Call a close friend or family member who understands and will listen. Find a support group. Hire a life and/or business coach to encourage and guide you. The hand that reaches out will ALWAYS be grasped by another. TRUST! If the fear of failure or rejection ever nudges you, reassure yourself with this beautiful message from nature (an anonymous quote I ran across), Use the talents you possess, the woods would be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang best). (Also remember that the birds that sing best have spent years practicing)!

9)       PERSIST

–It is your determination that achieves your goals – more than your talents! Review your goals daily (each morning when you wake up and each evening before you go to bed). Visualize the completed goal(s). Take the action(s) step by step. Imagine a 500 pound marshmallow stands in your way, eat it bite by bite – otherwise it is too much of a challenge to swallow. Ask, What am I waiting for? Reminder, This isn’t a dress rehearsal. This IS life. What are you waiting for?

10)   STAY FOCUSED

–Be aware of the distractions that want to steer you off course. Have a plan to distract your ‘attraction to distraction.’ Then work your plan each day. Consider eliminating things from your life to create more space for your goals to flourish and then take action. (ie. Let’s imagine that your distraction is watching television. The hours you expend watching the tube could instead be spent creating what you want. What is it for YOU? How willing are you to have what you really want for your life?)

11)   Reward Yourself

–When you complete a goal – reward yourself with a treat (ie. schedule a massage,dinner out with a friend or buy concert tickets of your favorite group). Sing your own praises. Let everyone know!  (Now you can have chats with the naysayers). You deserve this recognition. Release the tendency to rush on to the ‘next thing.’ Take the time to acknowledge your accomplishments. Bask in the radiance of PURE JOY.

Posted by: Suzan | May 5, 2009

Take a Break!

 

The newest addition to Sheryl Roush’s Heart Book Series – Heart of a Woman in Business – includes “Stories, Strategies and Skills for Success”.  Over 80 contributors submitted their original poems, stories, tips and advice to women in business everywhere.  I’m honored to be one of those contributors with an article entitled, “Take a Break!”

Set your project(s) aside–take a break—and refresh your mind, body and spirit!

Moving to a new location and changing your scenery, even when done in short intervals, can take you out of a stuck place and renew your perspective. Pausing for some refreshment time will serve your               project(s) well and bring you more peace. Stimulate your creativity and productivity with these ideas:              

§ Enjoy lunch outside. Turn your phones off and take a few moments to listen to the call of the songbirds. Feel the breeze lift your spirits. Renew your energy.

§ Take morning and afternoon breaks (five to ten minutes each) and enjoy the peaceful sanctuary of your ‘outdoor home.’ A few minutes to breathe in the fresh air and place the stale ‘challenges’ on pause can renew your perspective and revitalize your spirit.

§ Walk around the block for a fresh start. Find the closest park bench and sit still for a few moments. Be a keen observer of the people that pass by. What do you notice?     

§ Go to the closest grassy area and sit down (on a towel or blanket that you bring along). Connect with the sacred earth. If you feel comfortable doing so, close and rest your eyes for a while. Release any thoughts of work during this time. Focus instead on any nature sounds i.e., the birds or the wind.

§ Go to an outdoor café or coffee house for your lunch break. Breathe out any pent up concerns from the office and breathe in the new life within your change of scenery.

§ If you’re near a fountain or a quiet nook, allow yourself a pause at one of these refreshment centers to recharge your mind, body, spirit and soul. You’ll feel more alive when you return to your desk.

You deserve this time for rejuvenation. You’re likely to feel more motivated to jump back into your projects when you return. Your creative expression and energized spirit will thank you. Are you ready to accomplish another sensational project? Take a break!

**I will be one of the Authors with Sheryl Roush at an upcoming book signing and reading this Saturday, May 9th, 11-2, at Earthblend, 6020 Santo Road in Tierrasanta. Please join us!

Posted by: Suzan | April 24, 2009

What if you looked forward to Mondays?

What if you looked forward to Mondays? Imagine if the hours passed by like minutes and you often caught yourself giggling at work.

 

In a recent issue of Pink Magazine, Kathryn Whitbourne, Writer, mentioned such a place. Dixon Schwabl, a woman-owned marketing and advertising firm in Victor, New York was named 2008’s “Best Small Company to Work for in America” by the Great Place to Work Institute.

 

Employees have squirt guns to use on anyone who puts down an ‘idea’ during a meeting; a slide from the second floor to the main lobby; a primal scream room; a koi pond; and a fireplace. Employees receive their birthdays off and also, time to do volunteer work. They are involved in determining their own benefits and perks as a task force.

 

The wise CEO, Lauren Dixon, attributes her success to her key philosophies which she learned from her Dad: hire people smarter than her; eradicate the ‘Sunday blues;’ and have a line item in the budget for fun. Her success speaks for itself. She has 75 employees, $126 million in revenue, zero voluntary turnover and more than 500 job applicants (this year alone).

Posted by: Suzan | April 16, 2009

The Meaning of Life is Out of the Window

I continue to learn more about the meaning of life. All I need to do is look out of my window. This morning during my ritual time downstairs in the living room; I slowly opened my eyes from a deep meditation. I glanced at the large picture window and saw a baby bunny peering in at me. She had her nose pressed against the window as if to say, “Let me in. Aren’t I cute enough?”

 

I watched this wee baby bunny hop all around with its teeny little cottontail bobbing up and down. I felt like I could have sat there all morning. It would have been even more interesting to have had this gift on Easter – though I’ll take it any day of the year.

 

Later during my lunch break, I looked out to see the bunny hopping around our plants on the patio. And then another baby bunny appeared. Our patio is teeming with life. I put some lettuce outside for them and reveled in watching their little noses scrunch up during their feeding.

 

Every year wild birds, including doves and others I don’t have names for, make their home here on our deck or patio. Again, I noticed the same nest on the rear of our patio speaker just above the bunnies’ play area. Another nest has been built in our bird house on the deck. There is even a small nest in a bush in the front of our town home.

 

The other day a hummingbird actually stood still for a long while looking back and forth between my husband, Jim and me. Then it dove in and out of the water hose stream as if it were jumping rope as Jim watered the plants. Hummingbirds are the symbol of joy. What more can one want?

 

These little critters are the meaning of life. They are life itself. Their fertility reminds us to allow ourselves to be reborn again in any given moment. They bring unexpected pleasures with each arrival and only ask that we be still and take it in. God bless all of the little creatures – for they are truly the essence of LIFE.

     

 

 

Posted by: Suzan | April 9, 2009

How Bright Her Light – Tribute to Sophia

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I would like to begin this blog by honoring the memory of my dearest friend, SOPHIA, whose name in Greek actually means WISDOM. Sophia passed on March 1st. During the twenty years that she graced my life – she became closer to me than my own Mother. I met Sophia not long after I lost my Mother at the tender age of 51. How blessed to be given the gift of another Mother to share life with for twenty more years! Sophia will live forever in my heart.

I would like to share the poem I wrote for her which I read as part of her Eulogy on March 22nd:

 

How Bright Her Light:

A Tribute to Sophia

 

Sophia, Sophia flaunting her fashion finesse;

Her closet jammed with every imaginable form of dress;

Sophia with her hair coiffed with care;

Sitting at her vanity – if ever we wondered where;

‘Cause catching her without her make-up would be ever so rare.

 

Sophia, Sophia with the phone in her hand;

Family and friends calling constantly from all over the land; Sophia, the Queen of ‘going out to lunch’;

With a calendar so filled to see it your eyes needed to scrunch.

 

Sophia, Sophia the one so full of life;

In lieu of any circumstance – in spite of any strife;

Lifting her glass of red wine;

Assuring herself and others that all would be fine.

 

Sophia, Sophia so gifted at spreading cheer;

Drawing us to her as we all wanted to be near;

Sophia, so bright was her light;

She shined like a beacon from morning till night.

 

Sophia, Sophia so curious was she;

Adventurous – she knew how to be;

In spite of her constant oxygen companion;

Sophia explored every inch of her world and knew so well what it means to have FUN.

 

Sophia, Sophia in her improv class;

or wearing clown costumes with Ed with her sass;

Sophia, behind the counter of the Visitors Center;

Engaging everyone with her charm who chose to enter.

 

Sophia, Sophia with her red jacket on;

and her black bag along;

Enjoyed her Sundays at Church;

With her faith in God so strong;

Must be why she lived so long.

 

Sophia, Sophia with the radio so loud;

Learning about what’s going on in the world made her ever so proud;

Papers and books piled all around her;

Determined she’d read them all we concurred;

Her stubbornness wouldn’t allow her to throw anything away. Even her refrigerator and freezer gave this away.

 

Sophia, Sophia the woman who knew how to sell;

Her drawers so crammed with awards it was easy to tell;

She’d beam her wide smile and say, “How are you?”

Her customers crowded to be with her because around her they all felt brand new.

 

Sophia, Sophia – so clean and meticulous;

There wasn’t a time spent in her home without some kind of fuss;Yet she commanded a respect that knew no bounds; I know I found myself cleaning up after myself all the while that I walked around.

 

Sophia, Sophia with her loved ones; caregivers and Hospice nurses at her side;

As she continued to live her life in full stride;

While maintaining every ounce of pride;

Sophia – the one in which we could all confide.

 

Sophia, Sophia — the woman who never gave birth;

Yet so many were her children – you’d think she’d have had a wide girth;

Sophia knew how to lift your spirits even as she told it like it is; Her kindness, compassion and love brought us all to know our worth.

 

Sophia, Sophia like a Mom you’ve been;

I don’t think I’ll know a love like yours ever again.

All of us will miss your tender, warm embrace;

And we’ll never forget how we felt like your children – when we looked upon your face.

 

 

 

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